"If he loves me he would..."

"If she loved me she wouldn't have said that"

"If you love me you should give me what I want."

We all think that love, if it is real love, should lead to something. There should be a result that follows from love. We often make selfish demands from those who love us and, when they are unmet, we feel angry. We do this no less with God. Sometimes think that if God loves us then life will be pain free or prosperous or successful. Yet we know that many Christians live painfilled and failure prone lives.

So, what should we expect from God if he loves us?

If God loves you he will make you holy. The Bible tells us that we, the church, are the bride of Christ awaiting a great wedding feast. And on that day we will be holy:
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless (Eph 5: 25-27).
His love compels him not to meet our demands for our version perfect life, but to fulfill his own demands for his version of the perfect life, a holy life.

Holiness means being set apart from sin and to God. God desires holiness for his people. The image in the text is of a bridegroom--Jesus--who sets us apart as his bride. He loves us and picks us out to be his own. His loving us has nothing to do with our good looks or our behavior. Christ dies for us "while we were yet sinners" (Rom 5:8).

Our holiness required his sacrifice. Christ loves his bride and gives himself in payment for her to rescue her from sin. Love is like that isn't it? It compels the one who loves to make sacrifices for the other person. Christ "gives himself up" for us.

All this is so that he might cleanse us from sin. He will present us holy, "without spot or wrinkle" at the wedding feast. The picture is of a perfect bride being presented by the bridegroom to himself for a great party. It is a promise that cannot fail. If he loves you it will happen. He will make you holy.

  1. Pray that you will desire to be holy and look forward to that day when there will be no inclination in you to sin. 
  2. Agree with scripture. That means allow the word to work in your life, renewing you and cleansing you. To agree with scripture entails yielding to the Holy Spirit. You have to allow God to work. 
  3. Trust in the promise. Sometimes sin is so powerful it treatens to overtake us, but it cannot succeed. If you sin, come to the Lord and confess it and repent for "he is faithful and just and will forgive our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:19).